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A Beautiful Wedding… But What Comes Next?

Every yang family experiences the excitement and anticipation at the beginning of their marriage. Unfortunately, very few people manage to stay happy forever with the choice they’ve made. Many may find themselves asking the question: Did I make a mistake choosing him/her, or is he/she the problem? The truth is, we might encounter someone with a difficult and unpleasant personality, but in many cases, it’s not about serious character flaws. Rather, it’s that we don’t know how to navigate a serious relationship like marriage.

Unfortunately, people often enter into relationships or marriages without fully realizing what lies ahead. Many times, our dreams, imaginations, and impressions from movies or other unrealistic sources cloud our judgment. Then comes the “bursting of the bubble” we were living in. This is often painful; we feel hurt and lost, unsure of how to handle our disappointment and the reality before us.

Often, the end result is separation or divorce. But is that the only solution? Let me clarify that in some situations, divorce is indeed the best outcome. However, in many cases, it leaves behind a sense of bitterness. Fewer and fewer people are willing to work on their relationships, to build together, to forgive, to rebuild, and to show that they care about the other person. This issue extends to friendships as well, which also tend to dwindle over time.

So what’s happening? Has the world gone mad? Why have we become so selfish? Is it really possible to discard someone so easily, without any sense of responsibility or empathy for what they are going through?

There are many, many questions… often echoing without answers. But the truth is that yes, the selfish nature inherent in humans is rapidly growing in this consumer-driven world we’re shaping. That’s why there’s no other choice but to decide not to be like everyone else, not to allow the “wave to drown us.” Believe me, this is destructive for our soul and psyche, and therefore for our entire life, our entire existence, and consequently, for our health.

So I urge you – don’t discard friendships and marriages so easily. They are very valuable, helping you feel significant and happy, and they help the other person feel the same way. Don’t be a consumer! Take care of your husband/wife, take care of your friends, while you still can. Without unnecessary pathos, but life really is short – it is here and now… later might never come!